If you’ve just been dumped, one of the first things you’re going to want to do is find someone to talk to about the breakup. It’s natural to want to confide in someone and no one can fault you for that. However, you may notice that just about everyone has their own opinion and there is no shortage of advice – some good, some bad. In fact, many people will offer to help even though they have little experience and don’t know what they’re talking about. It’s critical that you sort the good advice from the bad – separate facts from opinions.

But how can you tell who to listen to and who to avoid?

The first thing you should look at is how much experience do they have? Listen to friends and family that appear to have experience and knowledge in this area. If you feel you can’t talk to your friends or family, this may be a good time to seek counseling. What you need now is someone to guide you through the next few weeks and months.

Don’t forget that you have a limited opportunity to make the right moves and if your plans include getting your ex back, you really can’t waste any time. In other words, you can’t really afford to take bad advice and make mistakes.

There’s no shame in asking for help, especially when the alternative is to go it alone. This is where you’re going to wind up in real trouble. Few of us make wise decisions when emotions are running so high. Just make sure you’re selective and don’t be afraid to seek help from those who actually walk the walk. Opinions are cheap, but real advice can be priceless.