Having an office romance is a tricky thing, a romance with a boss may be more exciting but difficult to handle. A gay employee who is in love with a boss and wants to attract his attention faces even more hardships. Being determined to start dating your boss, first of all you need to find out if he is gay or not to avoid awkward situations. This article may help you.

• First of all, it’s important to remember that there is no universal sign signaling that a person is gay. Don’t follow stereotypes. No matter how well you think you sort out gays from heterosexuals, there is always a risk to be mistaken.
• Don’t believe rumors. No matter what is being said about your boss, there is no confirmation. Another mistake is to spread rumors by yourself in order to start a discussion about his personal life. It’s a dangerous and totally unacceptable way to find out what you need to know. Not only you risk that the boss himself will learn about it, but your colleagues may change their attitude towards you.
• Establish friendly relationships with your boss. A person may want to discuss his sexual orientation only on his own will. Try to prove you are trustworthy and if one day he decides to come out to you, persuade him no one will learn about it in the company.
• Talking about personal life is not easy. It’s a very specific and intimate question. If you feel a person is hesitating, help him by disclosing your own sexual orientation or at least giving some hints.
• You are strongly recommended not to try to find out a person’s sexual preferences out of pure boredom or for some malicious purposes. All you do and say may turn against you and influence the whole company’s policy afterwards. Even if you are guided by romantic feelings, be very careful trying not to hurt another person.
• Why is the question of trying to build relationships with your boss so delicate? Even if you feel true affection, you can easily be mistaken. Any love story can turn life into a disaster. An employee is always less protected than a boss, that’s why no matter what a love story may turn into, you risk more than a person in a higher position. If your job is important for you, and your feeling is just a slight interest, ask yourself if you really want to get involved into this.