What makes marriage not sexy? Or like the title says; More importantly How to make marriage sexy? That is the question because something about marriage always seems to slow down the libido. People, All people tend to want what they cannot have. So this can be the key to improve marriage and bring back sex, great sex like it was before, back into your relationship.

When people get married they should be considered the luckiest people in the world and at first that is how they feel. But for some reason they shun the best opportunities that they have and cause themselves trouble. Trouble that when they all look back on was simply not worth it.

They almost always say the same things too. “It was a mistake. I want you back, I love you.” Sound familiar? So if your partner has made some mistakes or you have and you still want to stay in your relationship then get ready for some tough truths because I am not going to lie to you. It takes work and you are going to have to want it in order to make it happen.

Often the questions boiling around in my mind is do these people still love each other? A lot of the times the answer is Yes But its a whole new kind of love. It is not that sexy type of love that we all want to be a part of its that brotherly sisterly type of love. Its often jealous love that comes with that; “You can’t have her or him,” type of love that nobody wants. At least not to that degree.

How do we get the sexy back into marriage? Find the cause and fix it. In short, how to make marriage sexy?

Well, it is really pretty simple. The most desired fruit is the one in the garden that is denied. When good ole’ God set Adam and Eve down in the garden what did he say? You can have any fruit you want with one exception; the apple.

This was the ever so brilliant yet simple strategy, works every time. Lets say you have a bunch of different colored candy balls and you want your child to eat the one you slipped vitamins into. The best thing to do would be to lay them all out and say, “Alright, you can have all of these but do me a favor and do not, what ever you do, do not eat that red one.” No explanation just the command is all it will take. Curiosity is a strong motivator. The point is we are naturally designed to want what cannot have.

Especially, when it comes to our desires and sex.

I have said all that before but you are going to have to really want it and really work for it to get it. What needs to take place is the desire for something new. Plus it is going to take a little bit of work and work that you believe in. You are going to need to be creative. In a selfless way in order to gain back the love and respect that was lost in your lost perspective.

You need to create allure and mystery. Remember that you are and become desirable again. Well thought out planned unpredictability will help you learn how to make marriage sexy. You need a plan and a strategy naturally like anything else. If you want to make it easier you will need target focused goals based on these new perspectives.