You feel that just because your wife has moved out and wants to separate your marriage is over. But a lot can be done to get your wife back during this period of separation to prevent divorce. Here is what you need to do to get your wife back during your separation.

Leave her alone

Don’t try to hound your wife every day. The more you call the more resolute she is going to get. This is the time that you need to give her to reflect a little and be able to come to terms with the decision that she is about to take. Spending some time alone can make her see that your marriage definitely deserves another chance.

Don’t annoy her more

Since she is already annoyed you don’t need to add to her list of existing annoying elements. Calling her and trying to connect with her with nothing better to say than “I’m sorry” is a bad idea. Instead reflect and figure out why she is making this move.

One rock solid apology is what you need

Once you are able to figure her anguish, its time for you to make that apology. Make the apology honest, earnest and rock solid. Let her feel that it matters to you what she thinks and feels. Let her see that you have put in thought to make her feel fine and she will begin to mellow.

Make her talk to you

Gradually start calling her. Your agenda should be to get her to talk to you a little more each day. As she begins to talk to you each day her anger will begin to diminish and she will begin to feel that sense of security with you. However tread very carefully at this stage as one wrong move can place you in the bottom of the ladder.

Understand her point of view

Make an honest effort in understanding her point of view. Remember that it is not imperative that you get everything that she says. The idea is to make her feel that you genuinely care and ‘want’ to know how and what she feels. If you don’t understand something just ask her to explain clearly.

Take initiative

Tell her that you want to give your marriage another shot and are willing to do anything to make her see that. Offer to make an appointment with a marriage counselor and start going for sessions. She will join you once she sees you taking initiative.

Prepare to work hard

Work hard on the counselors directives and also be very patient with your wife. Let her see that she can trust you and soon you will have her back with you.