How do you “enforce” orgasm denial on a man?

Well, the simple answer is “you can’t”. It has to be voluntary and he has to be a willing participant. Even locking him away in a chastity belt or other device is unlikely to stop him from achieving orgasm in some way if he’s really determined.

But there are some measures you can take to make his orgasming less likely, especially as it’s obvious some times are more “dangerous” than others.

It might come as a surprise to discover most men who are experiencing long-term orgasm denial are not actually walking around with the desperate need to cum, 24/7. The sensation is described by most as “permanently being halfway to orgasm”, and it by all accounts (including that of my long-term denied husband, John) very pleasant.

But note it’s only half way. It’s much rarer than you think for an orgasm-denied man to find the urge to slip of somewhere quiet and have an orgasm on the quiet because of some burning need to get relief.

So the biggest danger points are:

1. In the shower (strange but true)
2. First thing in the morning when he wakes up (obvious when you think about it)
3. When you’re making love and he’s pleasing you and/or you’re teasing him.

The answers to 1 and 2 are easy: make sure he’s locked in a suitable chastity belt or device. They’re not meant to be 100% foolproof – but, then, they don’t have to be. They need only be good enough to act as a deterrent or obstacle.

You can help him by ensuring he gets out of bed in the mornings very soon after waking up, and by ensuring he doesn’t spend too long in the shower (some women prefer to supervise showering, even if he’s locked in the device, but for me I think that’s overkill. But if it works for you, then by all means do it).

So the only really problematic one is when you’re making love, or teasing him.

We’ve found one of the most effective ways to prevent “accidental” orgasm is to take him right to the edge of orgasm before you get too deeply involved in your lovemaking. It’s definitely counterintuitive, but many man report once they know where the “edge” of their orgasm is, it’s much easier for them to control it.

Alternatively, if you suddenly sense your man is dangerously close to orgasm and has lost all reason and control, then a firm squeeze on the end of his penis, or to the very base of the shaft can stop him dead in his tracks.

And if he’s even too far gone for that, then you can always stop all stimulation immediately and treat him to a “ruined orgasm”. I promise, they are not in the least bit satisfying or pleasurable, and they’ll leave him even more frustrated than before.

None of this is very difficult, and it’s all really just a matter of practice and being informed. You can work it out by yourself, but it’s often easier to do your research and benefit from others’ experience.