Mind games and manipulation, some would have you believe that it is only through the use of these, that you are to have any hope of getting your ex back. But is manipulating someone you want to spend your future with really such a sound move? Is such behavior going to result in not only your ex being a happier, stronger person, but yourself as well? The answer is an obvious, no! So rather than letting fear govern your actions, begin with the 3 steps set forth in this article and set yourself on the path to getting back your ex honestly.

Step 1: When Jealousy Knocks, Don’t Answer The Door!

When your ex begins to move on with their life its very easy to feel jealous. After all, you are in pain, and what are they doing? They’re out having fun! But if you succumb to this feeling, all you’ll present to the one you want back in your life, is bitterness. In addition to this, focusing on another’s achievements, rather stepping forwards in your own life, is a guaranteed way of ensuring you accomplish nothing that will make you stronger and happier!

Step 2: The Word Needy Does Not Exist In Your Dictionary!

Simply, there is no more guaranteed killer of a relationship than being needy. If there is one behavior certain to send your ex running, this is it! So if you are acting in this manner, stop! And then answer the following question honestly: What are the major areas in your life you need to work on, the one’s which, if addressed, would see you stand so much more complete and strong, that you’d simply have neither the time nor the interest to fixate upon the achievements of others?

Step 3: Strong Equals Desirable!

Whether you are a man or a woman, this remains true. So, if you are to win back your ex, then it is imperative that they view you this way! But knowing the person you want to be, and knowing how to get there, are two totally different things. If you were honest in step 2, then you already know where to start. So get out and pursue some of those dreams, and in the process, put a few of those fears behind you. Beyond that, watch yourself in your interaction with you ex. In these early stages it is crucial that you don’t become their sounding board. Keep any contact short, but also sincere. You don’t have affect disinterest in them, that would smack of manipulation on your part. Just keep the contact light, fun and genuine.