Do you sabotage your relationships?

So many of us enter into a promising relationship only to press the destruct button before it has time to evolve. Past hurts are the reasons so many people become serial saboteurs of love. When a relationship looks to be going well men and women with this issue find any way they can to mess it up.

When people end a relationship emotions are very hard to control. That feeling that your heart has been ripped out of your chest is only the start of a time where you feel depressed and often cry at any reminder of your lost love. The problem is that so many of us do not really resolve the feelings left from a major break up and carry them in the form of baggage into the next.

That feeling that if I trust this guy or girl I am going to get hurt again lives on long after the last relationship has ended. Like a serious illness you need time to heal and recuperate before you get back into the swing of things. Holding onto regret and bitterness will only sabotage your future relationships. If you look at each love affair as a lesson in love it is possible to move on with the knowledge that you have grown as a person and know better how to be with the next person you fall in love with.

Instead when a new relationship looks like it is going well the past feelings rise to the surface and tell you that the same will happen again if you continue. Before you know it you are alone again reliving the same break up pain.

Mending your own heart and feelings in a positive way is the only way to have a new relationship without the ghosts of the past destroying it. Making up with your self and the part you may have played in the dissolution of the relationship is important as any left over negative emotions can play havoc in the future. Make up with your greatest love yourself.