There are 5 things you need, to be able to consistently give any woman incredible sexual pleasure.
1. You must be comfortable with sexuality
This means both your sexuality and her sexuality. And the key word here is comfortable! As in, it’s a normal healthy activity for adults.
If you aren’t comfortable with sexuality, you’ll either come across as creepy or needy. Women will sense this within minutes of meeting you.
2. You must understand and appreciate women
If you are out to ‘get’ sex from women, or you have anger towards women… forget about getting in bed with them.
At best you’ll end up with a woman who has no respect for herself, because any woman with a healthy self-esteem will stay far away from any man who doesn’t respect her.
However, if you truly love women… for everything that defines them as a woman… you’ll never have a problem being surrounded by wonderful women.
3. You must learn female anatomy
You need this to know how to touch her in ways and in places most men dont’ even know exist.
Ask a guy at a bar and he’ll say “yeh sure, I know all about female anatomy”, but get most guys in private and you find out the truth.
Listen, it’s nothing to be ashamed of… useful sexual anatomy just isn’t taught in most of the world. At least if my informal survey of men who come to me to learn about how to give women pleasure is accurate.
The good news is, it’s not really hard. A couple of hours of study and you’ll know more than most men learn in a lifetime. And the women you date will be VERY grateful.
4. You must be able to give her orgasms
Different types of orgasms and in different ways. Clitoral, vaginal, extended, multiple orgasms, and more.
If you don’t, and you just pump-n-dump… you’ll become just another lame lover in a parade of lousy lovers. Because that’s what they all do.
Most guys only care about their own needs. As I mentioned in my article “The Secret to Really Great Sex”, if all you do is focus on giving women pleasure and not ‘getting laid’, you’ll already be way ahead of most men on the planet.
Then, if you learn about female anatomy and those wonderfully sensitive and erotic parts of her body… and touch her in just the right way… she’ll think she’s won the man-lottery!
5. You must learn how to engage her mind and her fantasies
For a woman sex is mostly mental. Stage hypnotists have known this for over 100 years. Any competent stage hypnotist can give a woman an orgasm simply by talking to her.
This is possible because of the mind-body connection and the ability women have to create vivid fantasies in her mind. This is also why women read 400 page romance novels while men look at porn.
And recent research has shown that women can have orgasms from visual imagery alone without touching their body. (see the book The Science of Orgasm by Komisaruk, Beyers-Flores & Whipple)
The point is that women can experience orgasms and sexual pleasure from many forms of stimuli. It does have not have to be through genital stimulation. And the most potent and powerful sex organ for a woman is her mind.
Almost 70% of women report they don’t have orgasms during intercourse. Imagine how excited she’ll be when you can give her an instant orgasm on command!
Summary: If you will take the time to work on making these 5 things a part of who you are, you will be in the 1% or 2% of truly Masterful Lovers in this world. Women will love you and respect you, and your relationships will be fun, sexy, and exciting.