In an intimate, loving lesbian relationship, toys can add a pleasurable and exciting level to lovemaking. There is an incredible range of toys available for any couple, but among lesbian couples, the strap-on dildo is perhaps one of the most popular, though some find it a bit of a daunting item to bring into the bedroom initially. For lesbians who desire the sensation of penetration, however, the strap-on can be an exceptionally exciting and endlessly rewarding toy, and can bring a great level of contact to sex.

Strap-ons come in many different styles, but the first and most important part to take into consideration is the harness. Essentially, any dildo with a flared base can be turned into a strap-on with the use of a harness. Harnesses are made from several different materials, leather being the most common. Leather is most comfortable against the skin, and though it cannot be disinfected, keeping it clean and polished will provide the wearer with a lifetime of sexy fun. Harnesses are also available in nylon, fabric, and vinyl; the fabrics are, of course, machine washable, and vinyl is easily cleaned with soap and water.

Harnesses come in a few different styles, the choice of which depends on the user’s personal taste and which is most comfortable. The G-string style has a single strap between the legs, often providing direct pressure to the genitals during use, which some people enjoy, others do not. This style provides more control than the two-strap harness, which is built more like a jock strap, with two straps running around the buttocks, making for a better fit adjustment. The G-string style is generally considered an easier choice for beginners. Thigh harnesses wrap around the leg, and can be worn by both partners for simultaneous penetration. Also for dual penetration, a double dildo compatible harness is available.

Using a strap-on dildo takes some practice, as it becomes like a new and awkward appendage. Some women may feel self-conscious with the thing dangling between their legs for the first time, but wearing it around the house alone at first may help. The most important part in using a strap-on dildo for the first time in a lesbian relationship is communication. Loving partners can easily get past the awkwardness of the first use together. Plenty of water-based lube should be used on the dildo, and it is a good idea to penetrate gently with fingers first before charging in with the dildo. A good, consistent pace should be found during the act, again, with good communication between partners.

A strap-on dildo can bring an exciting new expression into the bedroom for lesbian couples. With the endless range of styles and sizes, any couple can completely customise this intimate experience, and bring a whole new adventure into lovemaking.