In this article we’re going to explore the psychological aspect of impotence or erectile dysfunction or ED because it plays an important role in our understanding and curing of the condition.

And chances are that if you’re north of 40 it has or will happen to you if your lifestyle does not promote optimum health.

A satisfying, sexual relationship with the woman in your life doesn’t always come naturally . . . especially after age 40. Today’s mature woman is smarter, more open and more openly interested in finding sexual fulfillment with her man.

We also lead more stressful, hurried lives and sometimes all we want to do is sleep…

If you’re up to it, these years can be the sexiest years of your lives.

In the book What Women Want: What Every Man Needs to Know About Sex, Romance, Passion, and Pleasure authors Laurence Roy Stains and Stefan Bechtel surveyed women, asking them what factors made them less interested in sex.

Whether they described their relationships as being good or bad, about 40% of the women chose “lack of romance” as the top reason for lack of interest. Next on the list, about 20% of the women listed fatigue as the culprit.

A quick tip here is both of you getting some exercise. Join the gym together, walk the dog together or go hiking.

Imagine getting fit together so that you and your lover can take that trip to discover the world, it will do wonders for your fitness and your romance. You’ve come this far, why not enjoy it?

Now “lack of romance” is definitely in my top 5 reasons for ED. Not to talk out of my bedroom but I can assure you there is a definite change in my interest levels when my wife appears in a “little number” as opposed to the “old flannels”.

In 10%-20% of all cases of ED, psychological problems are the culprit. This is especially true for men who have an underlying physical cause, such as recent prostrate surgery. Childhood abuse or sexual trauma can also cause ED. Its most common psychological causes include:

o Stress: Your job, finances or relationship problems may be stressing you out. Try meditation, exercise or massage therapy.

o Performance Anxiety: If you’ve experienced ED once, your fear of sexual failure may cause subsequent ED.

o Guilt: Do you feel guilty that you are not satisfying your partner, or about some other aspect of your relationship? Communicate with your partner, it will help and you could even work on the solution together..

o Depression: Depression can cause ED even when you are otherwise comfortable with your sex life. Seek therapy. Antidepressants may also cause ED. Ask your doctor about changing medications.

It is important to address the issue with an open mind, look for a natural solution and only resort to chemical composites when all other avenues have been exhausted, my opinion, use it don’t use it.

In my opinion however, the evidence is stacking up against chemical and for natural….

You will notice that all my articles and my book “congratulations You’re Forty Something” has a definite natural/herbal remedy bias.

That is only because I’ve seen enough evidence to know it works. I’m a great believer of “It’d all in the mind”, here’s to the power of positive thinking.