“How to get back with my ex?” is a common question. Getting back with your ex may be easier than you think. Why? Because your ex has the same thoughts of getting back with you. Only at the beginning the negative emotions dominate.

If you want to win your ex back, you should avoid the big mistake people make after they break up – contacting the ex far too soon again. Actually, if you take heed of some things, you can get your ex back within a month.

As mentioned before, in the first weeks your ex still thinks about the negative aspects of your relationship. When you call in this period, chances are that you make things worse and won’t get your ex back. Instead, you need to give your ex some time to realize how great your relationship actually was. Getting back with your ex is not a dream – it depends on you!

A lot of people are afraid their ex will date and find someone else soon. But normally, they don’t because they need more time to forget you. Keep in mind: someone on the rebound rarely mates for life with the next person they date. In fact studies show that 90% of rebound relationships do not work out. If you keep cool while your ex is dating, you can position yourself very well for a reunion and get your ex back.

After about 3 weeks, it’s time to call your ex. Think of a time your ex probably will be home. Get yourself in the right mood (for example watch some comedy stuff) – you need to sound relaxed. Try to forget all the thoughts about getting back with your ex. Imagine that you’re talking to a friend. Otherwise you unconsciously will act like the whole thing is a big deal and signalize that you are desperate.

Instead, tell your ex straight that you want to meet him/ her for a specific activity – lunch, coffee, etc. Don’t ask what she/ he wants to do, instead come up with a concrete suggestion! You have to lead at this point. Say that you only have a half hour or so – the time constraint is important because your ex may fear that you want to have some long grueling conversation or confrontation. If your ex says yes – great! You have a date. The first step of getting back with your ex is done.

In case of a no, don’t panic, in most cases your ex wants to meet with you, but is afraid and unsure how to act. At this point, your ex doesn’t want you to know how much she/ he still cares about you. What you have to do here, is to change her/ his mood – with a special psychological technique.